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Understanding What Motivates You

Work Wear Wednesday

Work Wear Wednesday

Work Wear Wednesday

Work Wear Wednesday

Work Wear Wednesday

Work Wear Wednesday

Work Wear Wednesday

Work Wear Wednesday

Work Wear Wednesday

Blazer: Topshop | Top: Similar | Skirt: LOFT | Shoes: Nordstrom | Purse: Amazon

Photography by: Ban Avenue

I hadn’t planned on sharing this today but as are most of my blog posts, this one was spurred by an Instagram discussion. That Instagram discussion was spurred by my random thoughts while taking a walk around the neighborhood (something I’m trying to be better about doing).

Although I am a finance major and relatively business minded, I have never been motivated by money. Maybe that’s because I grew up surrounded by it and have had a fairly easy time in the financial department, but nonetheless money has just never been the driving source to motivate me. I think back to when my parents would grant us an allowance each month if we completed our chores. I almost never got an allowance- shocker!! But even a much younger, simpler minded Shelbi was more driven by the promise of TCBY or a gold star than money- imagine that!

So this made me think, if not money, then what drives me? How do I measure success? I had a good idea of what my drivers might be but I decided to hit up my good friend, Google, to see what other factors normally motivate people. And here is what she (yes, I’ve declared Google to be a wise woman) said.

1. Money and Rewards


Most people wake up each morning and head into work solely because of the reason they have bills to pay and work is an end to a means to pay those bills. Most people are simply working for the money and no other reason. A lot of people think that all they want is money, but what they do not realize is money is not usually the end product they are actually wanting. People want money to pay bills so that they can feel secure, to buy a nice car so that they can feel cool, to pay off their debts so that they can feel accomplished.

2. Desire to be the Best


Some people cannot stand being second best. Whether it is pride or hating to lose, these people push themselves the hardest when they know they are competing for that number one spot. Even if that “number one spot” is something they have created in their mind and isn’t actually something physically attainable. These people usually have no problem sacrificing weekends, skipping out on family dinners, or waking up at 5 to get ahead of the game.

3. Helping Others


And then some are motivated by helping others because they want to bring about change, motivation or inspiration into others’ lives. They care about making the world a better place.They feel happiest when they feel like they are making a difference a bringing about a greater good in someone’s life beside their own.

4. Power and Fame


This is a common motivator right behind money and normally go hand in hand because most people associate power and fame with how much money you have. People that are driven by power and fame usually are craving attention and acceptance of some kind. In this day and age of celebrities, Youtube sensations, and social influencers, there is more interest than ever to put ourselves out there to attract a large following and revel in the attention from complete strangers. Normally those whose number one motivator in life is fame, are normally met with disappointment because they always seem to want more.

5. Recognition


Know somebody that always has to be right? Or makes sure that everyone else knows that they accomplished their goal? Some people feel most accomplished or proud of themselves when they are recognized publicly. This can be as small as a simple thank you, just something to show that somebody recognizes and appreciates that you are doing a good job. It has been proven that recognition in any shape or form tends to increase a person’s sense of worth which in turn produces an increased sense of pride and satisfaction in their work. This is why a lot of companies do Employee of the Month.

6. The Passion


Passion is the strongest motivator out there. It is what can make us sacrifice sleep or leisure time in order to do something we love. The power of passion spreads through all parts of life, whether it be a sport, hobby, family, friends, etc. Passion can make us do some crazy things that money can’t. Sadly, most people do not find passion in their jobs. They become zombies just going through the motion of their job. But those that are passionate about their jobs, feel as though they have never had to work a day in their life!


So what does all of this mean? Once you understand what drives and motivates you, you can better your work ethic and turn your work into a passionate career. By identifying what it is that motivates us, we can enhance the factor used to obtain success. Because without motivation, you will never have the drive to fulfill your hopes and dreams.

Most of us are a mixture of several of these. My number one motivator is most definitely helping others. While I can get caught up in the power and fame craze of social media, at the end of the day I find myself most concerned with thoughts like, “Did I make a difference in anyone’s life today?”, “Am I making a positive impact?”, “Am I using my God given gifts to help make a difference?”. And even if I dropped followers or didn’t get very many likes on my Instagram photo that day, as long as I received one message or comment throughout the day from one of you that said you can relate to what I am sharing or that something I shared inspired or made you feel good about yourself, well then I can go to sleep with a happy heart and wake up the next morning ready to do it all again!

What motivates you? I’d love to hear in the comments below!

 

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Life Update: To Work or Not to Work

Bodycon Work Dress

Bodycon Work Dress

Bodycon Work Dress

Bodycon Work Dress

Bodycon Work Dress

Bodycon Work Dress

Bodycon Work Dress

Dress: Topshop | Shoes: Similar | Bag: Amazon | Sunglasses: Rayban

Photography by: Ban Avenue

If I had a dollar for every time I got asked “So, have you started looking for jobs yet?” I would have enough money to put into a retirement fund so that I’d never have to work another day again in my life. Me dramatic? Never. But I know it’s a question that I have not addressed publicly yet, so here it goes. The simple answer: no.

Why? Well after not having a desk job for the past 6 months (holy cow time flies), I cannot say that I miss it one bit. While I don’t see myself blogging full time forever, I am taking my sweet time before rushing back into the corporate world. One reason why it’s taking awhile is that I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching and thinking about what I want to do next. I know that I want to change industries. While the energy industry is a lucrative one, it’s not something I am passionate about. I’m hoping to find something within the fashion/beauty, press relations, or digital marketing realm next. I’ve been doing a little research on types of jobs that I might like to venture into but nothing too serious.

I am being picky because I can be and in the meantime I’m soaking up every minute of freedom that I have to blog my little heart out, travel as much as I please, and spend time with friends and family. If there is one thing that I keep hearing over and over from family, friends and all of you is to take this time while I am not tied down to focus on myself, be selfish, and take every opportunity that I can. So this is my way of trying to do just that.

The next question that usually follows after I tell people this is, “So why don’t you just blog full time?”. Well because the income is not predictable enough and I enjoy the finer things in life. I like to travel, I like to attend happy hours, I like fancy shoes, and I like to have enough money left over after all of those things to put into my savings. I tend to blow and go which means I have to have an income source that can support that and then some. I’ll deep dive into blogging income another day but in summary, some months are better than others. You don’t have a set paycheck with a set amount. It’s all about how many deals you close and how many sales you make, which can vary from month to month. So while some months I might make several thousand, other months I struggle to cover all my expenses. The inconsistency scares me.

Another factor is insurance. I had to get my own insurance since I’ve been self employed and let me just tell you- IT SUCKS. It is crappy insurance and I’m honestly not sure what I am paying for. I might as well be throwing $200 down the drain every month. Adulting is the worst. If I had a husband that brought in another (more stable) income source and better insurance coverage, I would probably never go back to a desk job. But because I’m a boss a** b**** that don’t need no man (for the time being), I’ll eventually have to call off the party and go back to work! But is that day tomorrow? Is that day a month from now or maybe a year from now? The jury is still out.

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Day to Night: Work Dress

Day to Night Work Wear

Day to Night Work Wear

Day Look


Day to Night Work Wear

Day to Night Work Wear

Day to Night Work Wear

Day to Night Work Wear

Day to Night Work Wear

Dress: Nordstrom | Shoes: Nordstrom | Bag: Amazon | Sunglasses: Raybans

Night Look


Day to Night Work Wear

Day to Night Work Wear

Day to Night Work Wear

Day to Night Work Wear

Day to Night Work Wear

Dress: Nordstrom | Jacket: BlankNYC | Shoes: Similar | Purse: Amazon

Photos by: Ban Avenue

With Valentine’s Day falling on a Wednesday this year, I wanted to provide some inspiration for all of my girlboss ladies that will be going straight from the office to dinner. What I love about this dress, is it’s versatility. You could honestly wear it for any occasion and if that’s not a total selling point get this! It is under $50 and comes in 10 colors! I’ve been eyeing the Tea Rose and Vintage Indigo colors next – so perfect for Spring! It does run true to size and is long enough for work. For height purposes, I am 5’4″.

My pro tip for all of my working ladies that want to easily transition their outfit from day to night is to always stash a pair of black strappy heels, jeans and a bold lip color (my go-to is MAC “Diva”) in your desk drawer or car. My badass jacket has found a permanent place in my car trunk as well because you can’t tell me that this doesn’t automatically up the cool factor on any outfit you put on! There are so many times these 3 essentials saved me from having to make a quick dash home and wasting perfectly good happy hour time #priorties If you are still looking for a Valentine’s Day dress or if you are a gal that likes to stock up on versatile dresses that can take you seamlessly from day to night (my type of girls!), then here are a few more options! Also, if you are a fan of these day to night posts, check here for more!

 

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Valentine’s Day at the Office

Valentine's Day at the Office

Valentine's Day at the Office

Valentine's Day at the Office

Valentine's Day at the Office

Valentine's Day at the Office

Valentine's Day at the Office

Valentine's Day at the Office

Photography by: Ban Avenue

I talked Kylee into another Work Wear Wednesday post because two looks are so much better than one am I right?! I’m not kidding when I said I pulled a 360 in the car when I saw these two shirts in the Talbots window. I’ve recently discovered Talbots for work wear and while I will say they are hit or miss for me, they do have the cutest, festive tops! Their Christmas selection was on point and Valentine’s Day is too. One reason that I love their selection is that everything comes in petite and plus sizing which is great for this petite girl!

Whether you work in an office, a classroom or just want a cute and semi professional outfit this Valentine’s Day (or week of), Kylee and I’s looks are casual enough to take you from work to play. For size reference we are both wearing XS’s in our heart embellished tops. If you aren’t sold on either of these looks or just want some more inspiration, see below! Use the arrows on the left and right side of the screen to scroll through my selections and click any image to shop it directly!

Tops


Bottoms


Accessories


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Where I Shop for Work Wear

Work Wear Wednesday look under $50

Work Wear Wednesday look under $50

Work Wear Wednesday look under $50

Work Wear Wednesday look under $50

Work Wear Wednesday look under $50

Work Wear Wednesday look under $50

Top: LOFT | Pants: LOFT | Shoes: Similar | Earrings: Bauble Bar

Photos by: Ban Avenue

My go to places to shop for work wear have definitely evolved over the past couple of years for several reasons, but mainly because I realized you don’t have to forfeit quality for price. I have found that shopping the sale racks at some of the higher end stores is just as budget friendly as shopping at some of the lower end stores where the quality is not usually as great. I do want to point out that in the early stages of my career, my go-tos were always TJ Maxx, Forever 21, H&M, or Ross and that all of these stores below are just as comparable if you shop them the right way!

  1. LOFT– What in the world did I do before I discovered LOFT? To be honest, my bank account was probably a lot happier. Not because it is overpriced but because the sale items are good. Almost TOO good most of the time. LOFT is almost always having 40-50% off the entire store, even new arrivals. This is great for all of my working gals that are trying to stick to a budget but also want to stay on trend. LOFT has new arrivals almost every week! Both my top ($12) and pants ($35) are from LOFT as is the majority of my work attire these days.
  2. Nordstrom– The motherload. Nordstrom is a more recent discovery for work wear because I was always weary of their prices. The trick is to haunt their sales and know specifically what to look for. Depending on if I am shopping for something specific or just want to browse I will go about it two different ways. If you know what you are looking for, go ahead and type that into the search bar and then filter by “sort by price: low to high” that way you can weed out the higher priced items. If you just want to browse the site for work wear, there is actually a work wear section here where you can choose between contemporary workwear, trendy workwear, or casual workwear. Then simple filter by “sort by price: low to high”! The great thing about Nordstrom is that shipping is always free which is not the same for most other retailers.
  3. J Crew Factory– If you are a J Crew lover but not a J Crew price tag lover, then you know that J Crew Factory is where it’s at. J Crew Factory is the outlet store for J Crew so everything is majorly discounted. My personal favorite things to shop for at J Crew are their bottoms- so I’m talking pants and skirts. I have everything from velour skinny jeans to pencil skirts from J Crew. I love that I am always the same size so ordering online is not a total crap shoot. Once you find your size in J Crew you can’t go wrong!

Head on over to my Instagram and click on today’s picture for more places and Instagram accounts that provide work wear inspiration. And if you are looking for even more work wear looks don’t forget to check out the rest of my Work Wear Wednesday posts.

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